I am not really into debates and all because I believe everyone has their own opinion. But let me just get this out there to my nonexistent readers (lol). I came across a post in a Cebu mom group on Facebook calling out breastfeeding moms who choose to cover.
The comments kept pouring in and my phone kept buzzing with notifications as I happen to comment on the post as well. But when I checked again, the post has since been deleted. Anyway, in the post, this certain mom was ranting about why people (including or especially moms) make an issue about breastfeeding in public.
She also wrote something about breasts being created by God and how women should not be ashamed to use it in public to nourish their child. And then she also went on to label those who cover up as “arte” (negative connotation for prissy or nitpicky?) – and that did it for me.
I don’t usually comment in groups to debate, but this got me. Don’t get me wrong. I get her point! It was very well taken. Breastfeeding is natural, it’s normal and it’s beautiful – so why be ashamed of it? I am pro-breastfeeding myself and I believe in its benefits. I’ve seen it, duh? I breastfed my kid until he’s almost three. Some moments, my boy still latch on to my boob for comfort. And as I’ve said, I’ll do it all over again.
But in the almost-three-years of breastfeeding, I used a nursing cover. I am one of those breastfeeding moms who cannot bear to show my chest/nipple or have everyone see it while I’m feeding my boy. I never had issues with nursing covers – in fact, I love them. Kai and I were comfy with it – he ate peacefully and wasn’t bothered by the cloth. I chose the cool cloth for extra comfort. All in all – I loved covering up and I can say the same for Kai because he NEVER had a problem with that.
I salute moms who saw the threadstarter’s point and agreed that breastfeeding should be normalized. In our country, breastfeeding in public is not as much of a problem compared to Western countries, though. There’s no uber-shaming of moms who breastfeed in public, but the thing is, some members of the breastfeeding community are the ones who shame breastfeeding moms for choosing to cover up.
Seeing the comments, I saw how many agreed; I can count with my fingers those who disagree – especially the part where she labels moms who cover up as “arte.” Does that mean that moms who choose to cover are not doing their jobs? Just because a mom chooses not to expose skin, does it mean she’s a bad breastfeeding mom?
And don’t get me started on those who shame formula-using moms. To each his own – I believe that. I don’t like getting my opinion out there about issues like this but this is just one time. Chance nalang! As I’ve said, breastfeeding is beautiful. I even encouraged a few friends to breastfeed and I felt awesome they followed my advice. There were those that I have encouraged but they ended up using formula instead but that’s totally fine as well! But why do some moms shame those who don’t feed with their boobs? Does it make you, breastfeeding mom, superior to formula-using moms? I don’t think so because the most important thing is that the baby is well-fed and well-loved at the end of the day.
To the person who ranted: No one even called out on you for breastfeeding without a cover, so why would you go on shaming those who do? Personally, I don’t have a problem with not covering up, I can even say, “Good job.” But I feel more comfortable with a cover. That’s just me. My opinion. My self. My decision. My choice. There’s no need to shove your beliefs down someone else’s throat just because they don’t agree with your opinion. But if someone (who’s not breastfeeding) insists you cover up – that’s a different story. I would support you in your fight.
Dear moms, it doesn’t matter how you feed your child. If you go for breastfeeding – congratulations and welcome to the team! Good on you, because it’s not an easy task. If you choose formula because you failed at breastfeeding, good job for trying but sometimes things don’t work out for you. What matters is that you continue to find ways to ensure your baby gets to eat.
The most important thing here is respect. Respect a person’s decision and choice. After all, we are mothers and we only want what’s best for our little ones.