Raising a toddler can be a handful – and they never fail to get on your nerves. I admit, I’ve become a momzilla at times, especially when Kai’s not listening no matter how many times I tell him to behave. Each time I reprimand him (or raise my voice), I feel guilty right after. I feel sorry and then I reminisce about those times when he was just an infant.
Now, there’s a trick that’s been going around on social media (I’ve yet to try it) and it has this positive parenting approach. Author Kelly Holmes shared this trick on her blog, The Reformed Idealist Mom, when she realized how she loses her temper easily.
“Something about the preschooler-ness of my preschooler was turning me into an angry mother every time I opened my mouth to talk to her,” she wrote on her blog. “I needed help.”
To extend her patience with her pre-school daughter, she needs to be reminded about being nice with the use of a hair tie – five of them, actually. Whenever she’s around children, she’d have five hair ties (loose rubber bands would suffice) on one wrist.
Each time she snaps without realizing it, she’d take one tie and move it to the other wrist. To get back the hair tie, she would need to do five positive acts. The ultimate goal is to make sure that all five of the hair ties are on the original wrist by the end of the day.
Kelly couldn’t believe the progress the hair tie parenting trick has made.
“I thought all this was a fluke, that it would wear off over time, and I’d revert to being an angry mother with my middle kid. Months later, the hair tie trick is still working wonders. I talk to my preschooler with love and kindness in my voice instead of annoyance and frustration.”
This sounds like a really good idea. I might just try it today!