People think that being a work-at-home mom is easy. I’ve had people telling me that I am enjoying a carefree life just because I chose to work at home or that I’m basically doing “nothing” just because I don’t get up and drive or commute to work. While it’s true that I’m enjoying my life as a work-at-home mom, not many people realize that being one can make you lose your sh*t so easily.
Just imagine having to attend to your home-based job while some little guy keeps on bugging you, crying the moment you fail to give him attention for even just a minute. Or having to hurry up just to submit work on time, but then as you do your job, this little one keeps asking you for this and that. Or concentrating on your work because you’re so fired up and you’re on the roll but then your train of thought gets disrupted because someone wanted you to go with him to get some water, or go peepee, or get some chocolates from the fridge.
And for moms who don’t get some help around, they need to think about chores on top of the kids and their job. And don’t get me started with the partners, who would also request the moms to do other things as well. All this can really be overwhelming, especially for first-time moms.
I must admit, I haven’t figured out how to keep my day organized – because no, I am not that type of person. But that doesn’t mean you can’t keep your sanity as a work-at-home mom because you actually can. All you need is to balance everything between work and family.
#1. Wake up early
I cannot emphasize more why waking up early and waking up before everyone does is very important for work-at-home moms. For me, I know the time when Kai usually wakes up so I try my best to wake up three hours before he does. Three hours is a lot of time for you to accomplish work tasks. Even an hour makes a big difference. By waking up early, you dedicate yourself and focus on your work and you get to have undivided attention.
When you’re done with those first few hours, you also have the time to spend with your kids. You shouldn’t be working when they are awake or you’ll just get frustrated with the distractions.
#2. List down your daily tasks
I’m not usually a to-do lister but I believe this works, especially if you know you have so many things to do within the day. Your list doesn’t have to be all fancy; what’s important is that you have something to write your tasks on to help you remember and stay on track. I keep a schedule of my work tasks, which include two writing gigs, maintaining my blog and social media promotions and it definitely helped.
#3. If you can, get some help
I’ve told a friend that as a work-at-home mom, we cannot do everything. We can do a lot – but not everything. If it’s too much to handle, get some help. Ask your partner to cook for the family from time to time. For partners, it is important to share the responsibilities at home. After all, the two of you made the family together so it’s basically a together-thing.
You can also hire someone to help with the chores. A cleaning lady would be a good idea – I know, because we have one and it makes things easier for us. If you have the means, then go for it. There’s also the grandparents. They’ll be more than happy to look out for your child.
Having someone around to help, even just a little, would ease your burden and would, at least, keep you from losing your marbles completely.
#4. Get out of the house
Many first-time moms would find this difficult to do. But you don’t even have to think about grand trips or the like – even the simplest outing, like going out for a stroll outside your house, would really be helpful for work-at-home moms to keep their sanity. It’s not fun when all you get to see are the walls of your house.
#5. Do fun stuff
We all have different definitions of “fun.” Mine is playing an online computer game. Whatever fun activity you have in mind, do it, just to shake off the tension you have. Go shopping, read a book, play with your kids or the dogs, watch movies or do some arts and crafts – whatever it is that will take your mind off being busy.
As a work-at-home mom, you get to take care of your home while you get to be around as your kid reaches different milestones. It’s already a great opportunity to be able to earn, and at the same time, be with your family. Don’t be hard on yourself. Take a break, once in a while and learn to look after yourself as well.